Lessons I've Learned So Far in My 20s
The idea for this blog post has been swirling around in my head for the past few months. It's just been difficult to gather all my thoughts to sit down and write it. Although I am only three (almost four) years into my twenties, I've learned quite a lot.
1. Don't picture what your life will look like in 5 years.
While I was in high school, I remember having such a clear vision for what my life would look like in 5 years. I would be attending college, studying something that could make me a lot of money, and enjoying my newfound independence. One day, my dad sat me down and said that when we make plans, God laughs. The reason being, we don't know what our lives will look like in 5 years, God does. So, coming up with this comprehensive plan of what we want our lives to look like in 5 years is a joke.
While my high school self was right in the fact that I would be attending college. My entire college experience was a lot different than I had pictured. I learned so much more in four years there than I had imagined. My lessons went beyond the classroom into life experiences that I wouldn't trade for anything. I learned how to be tough, confident, and independent. I challenged myself to be involved in many different activities, classes, and internships.
Now, that I am almost two years out of college, I have been reflecting on the vision of my life that I had as a senior in college preparing to graduate. You know what? I didn't have one! I didn't know where my life would take me and I'm glad I didn't plan every minute moment. In the two years since I have graduated college, I have tried my hand working at a digital marketing agency and a Fortune 500 company. What I learned was something that I should have realized all along. I was born to help others and think creatively.
I don't know what life will look like in 5 years. I have some ideas of where I'd like to be. But, I'd be kidding myself if I wasn't looking forward to the adventures, lessons, and experiences that God has in store for me.
2. People come into our lives for a reason, season, or life.
Recently, I've been grappling with the idea that people come into our lives for a reason, season, or life. I know this isn't a revolutionary thought, however, a friendship that I thought would last forever ended. What I realized is that sometimes, no matter how much history you have with a person, you are just going in two different directions and the common ground you once had is gone.
What I learned from that experience is it's okay. People play different roles in our lives, and it is up to us to take the lessons and memories and reflect positively or negatively on the situation. I am choosing to look at this in a positive light. While I'll look back on the memories with fondness and wish this person nothing but the best, I'm ready to move on.
3. Life after college is unpredictable, confusing, and exciting.
The wave of emotions I felt while preparing to graduate from college two years ago was immense. For the first time in my life, I didn't have any idea where I would be in the next two, five, ten years. As I mentioned in the first lesson I've learned so far, I didn't have a plan. I knew I wanted to get a job to pay off my student loan as quickly as possible. After working in two extremely different environments, I decided to do something unpredictable.
Of all the lessons, I've learned so far in my 20s, it all ties back to this one. Life is always going to be unpredictable, confusing, and exciting. It is up to me to view it as an adventure, instead of worrying about where I'll be in the next few years. Everything falls into place, so for now, I'm just going to enjoy the ride.
4. When you find the right person to spend the rest of your life with, you just know.
I'm not sure if I mentioned this on the blog before, but my parents are divorced. They split up when I was around six years old. To be honest, I don't remember what life was like with them together. Despite growing up in a family of divorce, I have always been a hopeless romantic. I've always believed that the right person was out there and I kept wondering and praying about when I would meet him. Well, just a few months before my 21st birthday, I met him!
It is true when they say that when you are with the right person, you just know. I've dated a few people before I met Travis and all I can say is they didn't stick around long because I knew they weren't right.
For anyone that is single out there reading this, be patient! I know that is easier said than done, trust me. I kept wondering where my person was, when I would meet him, and how his life was going. Once you find your person, it'll be difficult to imagine what life was like without them. The waiting will be worth it.
What lessons have you learned so far? I'm all for sharing the knowledge! Leave a comment below or send me a tweet!