How to Practice Self-Love
As an empathetic and caring person, I find it really hard to give myself the same love and care as I give others. My rational behind that is while I’m doing something for myself or caring about myself, I could be helping someone else. What I recently realized is that in order to bring the best version of myself to relationships, I needed to start practicing self-love. After that realization, the harder part came in actually accepting it and telling myself that it is okay to focus on what I need, deserve, and want.
Here are a few things that I do to practice self-love, I’d love to know what you do so that I can add to this list! Let me know in the comments below or direct message me on Instagram.
I have kept some version of a journal since I was in first grade. I love writing down my thoughts because not only does it help me process what’s going on in my head, but it is fun to reflect back and review old entries. Although I enjoy keeping a journal, I don’t make as much time to write in it as I used to. That is something that I am actively trying to change as I know it makes me feel better, and taking time to process emotions helps me be a better friend/family member.
How often do you find yourself thinking, “Ugh, what is wrong with me?! Why am I so weird/annoying/dumb/ugly/etc.?” STOP! I read a quote somewhere that said something like you should be speaking to yourself in the way that you speak to others. Would you be calling someone stupid or weird? No, so why are you talking like that to yourself? You should and need to be your biggest cheerleader. After all, you are the only person you spend the entirety of your life with.
Dedicate time to do what makes you happy each week
I find that when I’m running around like a chicken with my head cut off, I start feeling a bit more irritable. The reason is because I can only give so much of myself before I’m running on empty. When I came to this conclusion, I stopped feeling so guilty for dedicating time for myself to do whatever I wanted each week. Trust me, when you start spending some time doing what makes you happy, you’ll find that your mood starts to increase.
I know I’ve mentioned this before, but the Calm app is my favorite app on my phone (other than my camera). The meditations help me get to a calmer state and put things in perspective. When I’m centered with myself I find that I have more focus and energy to dedicate to helping others.
Talk with a therapist or trusted friend/family member
I also have mentioned that I started seeing a therapist and I have found that it helps tremendously. I’m not sure why there is such a stigma with seeing a professional. There is absolutely nothing wrong with it. I got very lucky with finding my therapist because she is really helpful and allows me to think of things in a new way. It is nice to get an outsider’s perspective on life and hear some tips they have for you. Before I found my therapist, I read a bunch of articles on it and don’t be surprised if you have to test a few therapists before finding your person.
What are you going to do to practice self-love today?