Something happens when you graduate from college. Everyone moves away from your college town and is on different paths. Some head straight to grad school, others look for jobs, and some start their first job out of college. You suddenly have less time to see people you could text to hang out with last minute. I’ve had quite a few friendship changes post-grad that taught me who to trust and which people are there for me. I also learned who I want to be in my life and have come to terms with friendships ending.
Some people are only in your life for a season.
This is probably one of the harder things to come to terms with as an adult post-grad. Growing up, you never think that certain people will not be in your life anymore. Yet, as you get older, it inevitably happens. People lose touch, or you find out who you want to make time for and conversely who makes time for you. The tough part is understanding that not everyone is meant to be a lifetime friend. There’s a quote that goes something like people are meant to be in your life for a reason, a season, or a lifetime.
Reconnect with people.
Just because you lost touch with someone doesn’t mean the door is closed on that friendship! If you are missing someone or want to check-in and catch up, don’t be afraid to reconnect. A simple, “Hey, how are you doing?” text should do the trick! If the person doesn’t respond, which I doubt they won’t, then you don’t need them in your life! Something I’ve learned is that people who want to be your friend will make an effort to be in your life.
So you are in a workout class or eating in your office’s cafeteria and notice someone else that could be friendly, what do you do?! Say hello! You never know what could come out of a simple greeting, you could be meeting your next best friend! I’m going to challenge myself to be more open and spend less time on my phone when I’m out alone somewhere. Will you?
Make time for friends.
This is so simple but needs to be said. As a full-time employee, you suddenly find yourself with a lot less time to spend with people. Working can be draining and at the end of the day, you just want to change into pajamas and binge-watch Netflix with your dog cuddling you. I think that it is important to maintain friendships after college, and you need to put the effort in! Make some time to chat with a friend during your commute to work or meet for brunch on the weekend. I guarantee you will start to feel more connected with the outside world and less like work is your only life. Have fun!
Did you notice any changes in friendships after graduating from college?