Define Your Purpose

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There is no greater gift you can give or receive than to honor your calling. It’s why you were born. And how you become most truly alive.
— Oprah Winfrey

Yesterday I was in church and the priest was talking about how we are all given talents from God. He said that we shouldn’t hide our talents, be afraid of them, or compare our talents to others. Instead, we need to share our talent with the world and be thankful for it. It was interesting to hear that sermon yesterday because I had planned on writing this post about defining your purpose today.

I think since I graduated from college I struggled with determining and defining my purpose because I thought that I needed to have a 35-year career roadmap laid out. Props to you if you have that sorted out, but I’m starting to enjoy just learning from each role I have and the open possibilities the future holds. This past weekend, I started decluttering, kind of like an early spring cleaning.

While I was decluttering, I came across a bunch of old notes/diaries and drawings. I knew that I always enjoyed writing and sharing stories from a young age, but it was cool to see that reminder and read some things I wrote when I was a kid. I’m a writer, and I can’t deny or hide that. Instead, I need to lean into it and allow myself to grow as a writer and share it with the world.

Looking back at all of those mementos had me thinking about the journey it took for me to get here (and by here I mean writing this blog post on s’more happiness). Outside of writing stories and sharing my thoughts in diaries from 1st grade, I started an online blog in 2007 on iWeb (does anyone remember that?) I kept it on private but shared some photos and thoughts with friends and family who had the password. In 2008, I started filming vlog-style videos before they were really a thing. I didn’t share them on YouTube but saved them on my iMac. I talked about my days in high school and filmed some clips on vacation. I started a blog before s’more happiness that I deleted within two weeks. In June of 2014, I started s’more happiness originally to share my life in college. In December of 2018, I revamped the site and started fresh with all new content.

This past year, I was thinking about switching my career and going back to school for something completely different. I thought that my job didn’t have any purpose because I wasn’t really giving back to the community. I came to the realization that I was looking at my job to check off every single box of happiness and fulfillment for me. While your job shouldn’t be a source of misery for you, it shouldn’t be the only thing bringing happiness to your life. Viewing it that way puts too much pressure on it and doesn’t allow you to foster other side projects. Now, I am able to give back to the community by volunteering as a blog editor for a national speaking competition that is close to my heart because my grandparents led it for over 30 years and I participated myself.

What I’m trying to say is that so often we try to look elsewhere for our purpose. We start seeing friends or even strangers on Instagram pursuing different avenues and we think we should follow suit. We think that our jobs need to bring so much fulfillment to our lives, and if they don’t, we start questioning it. Everyone has a different path and the only person we should be looking to determine that is ourselves.

I challenge you to look back through your life, what types of activities did you gravitate towards. How did you spend your free time? Your purpose lies in those answers. Don’t run from it. How are you going to share it with the world?